I’m going to put it out there and say it, “Aging scares the $#%T out of me!” I am vain, there, I said that too! I have blonde hair, blue eyes and a pretty darn good complexion. But, I am getting on into my upper 30’s and… Well, I just don’t want to get old! When I turned 30, I pretty much thought life was over and now 40 is on the horizon. Go ahead and laugh, my husband does. He also says, “Well, there’s always the other option…if you aren’t getting older then you’re dead.” This stated in a sarcastic, straight faced tone. Ugh, men! My husband is six years older than me. So, yes, he is in his 40’s. And I have figured out, men just do NOT get it- the fear women have of aging. Perhaps it’s because they don’t have to age gracefully! A man can go bald, get a big belly, slouch, get wrinkles and so on, other men (in general) will not judge them! And, by the way, I am not stating this is what my husband is doing- I am making him age gracefully! There shall be NO ears, nostrils or eyebrow hairs where they do not belong!
But, women and men will judge a woman for aging and if she doesn’t do so in a fabulous sort of way, it can get brutal! We are living in a society where social media is at it’s peak. Women are skinnier then EVER and other women are bigger then EVER- and both will be judged! We compare and contrast, we use photo imaging software to portray who we are not. We can dye our hair, put hundreds of dollars of product on our faces and more- still someone is going to judge us. There is just no making anyone happy- including ourself! So, what is the solution?
I personally have decided that I need to start thinking of myself more as a fine wine. “I’m getting better with age…and I’m also getting more expensive.” I think of all the awkward moments of my 20’s. Things that I didn’t know, understand or even realize about myself! I need to stop worrying about what people think of me and work at what I think of myself! Ultimately, it is me who has to look in the mirror at the end of every day and live with who I am on thee inside! I want younger people to look at me with respect and want to be more like me. I want my kids to think highly of me and who I continue to become. And really, aging doesn’t mean you have to lose your looks or who you are…does it?