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Monday Catch-Up

As I shared last Monday I had an unexpected visit from one of my sisters. The first visitor to come to see us since our move over a year ago. We had an amazing week together and she flew home yesterday. I hated to see her go, but her goal is to make the move to live here in about six months. This is quite exciting, specially as out of my four siblings we are the closest, perhaps also the most alike. I am missing her already though.


So, after a week of playing tour guide and having lots of fun, it is now back to life as usual. Having an unexpected week off was delightful, but there is now lots of catching up to do. You wouldn’t think that a small amount of time, like a week, would throw me off- but it does. I’m a pretty routine (okay maybe even a bit OCD) type individual.

I look forward to getting back into my daily blogging and catching up with you all. I hope you will do the same with me, specially if I missed anything of importance or pieces you would like me to read- feel free to link them here.

Happy Monday and have a great week!





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Sisters Monday

Some, urgent news, I probably won’t be as active this week. I had a last minute fantastic surprise when one of my three Sisters called and asked if she could fly down to see me. I am so excited to have her here. She arrived yesterday, coming from chilly northern temps to a nice mild 80 degrees (F). She’s coming to check out the area and considering a move. I’m so thrilled to have her!

She was anxious to see the beach. So we got up and out for the sunrise this morning. We have the week to do lots of fun ‘Sis’ type things. Shopping, tanning and even matching “Sisters” coffee cup tattoos we’ve been wanting to get…yes this is what our week will likely be filled with. We are two peas in a pod and the most alike of all my siblings.

What are you up to? Happy Monday and have a fabulous week! Cheers from the beach.


©Sisters by SBDMB (MM)





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Home Is

“Home wasn’t a set house, or a single town on a map. It was wherever the people who loved you were, whenever you were together. Not a place, but a moment, and then another, building on each other like bricks to create a solid shelter that you take with you for your entire life, wherever you may go.” ~Sarah Dessen

I have spent many parts of my life in many different places. I don’t go back to a childhood home with years of memories, because we never just lived in one place. So, this taught me that home is not a location but where the people you love reside.

Now as an adult, we raised our kids for the first 12 and 14 years of their lives in one location. But, then we moved cross country to begin new. We have instilled in them the same mind-set of where home truly is, within your family. Changes will occur throughout life, it is inevitable. But, one thing you can and should be able to count on, is family. I know not everyone is a blessed to be able to say this, so I do not take it for granite.

In conclusion, however, I will share with you some pictures from around our new local area here in Myrtle Beach, in keeping with the theme of the Daily Post Photo Challenge: Local. Enjoy!


©Our Neighborhood by SBDMB (MM)


©Myrtle Beach Boardwalk by SBDMB (MM)



©Myrtle Beach Shadows by SBDMB (MM)


©The Pier by SBDMB (MM)


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Immune Monday

I must say that it has been a very long week. In fact, hard to believe that it is only Monday! With all the hurricane preparing and then the actual hurricane, well it has just been a very drawn out seven days. On top of all the hurricane hype that has been going on, we have been battling a bug. I on the front line trying to keep it at bay, or perhaps just hiding from it!


Of course, the day that we begin our “lock down” is the day that Daughter comes down with a terrible sore throat- followed up the next day by Hubby. Continued by coughing, fever and runny noses.  I believe the two had contracted the bug at the same time- when they ventured for a Dad and Daughter outing earlier in the week. Son and I have yet to fall prey.

I am quite germophobic. I’m sure many are not surprised reading this, specially if you know how I suffer with a couple mental health issues already. It’s okay, I can laugh at myself now. When the kids were toddlers it was painful, specially as my son had the keen ability to put nearly every foreign object in his mouth. Oh, but those are stories for another time.

So, we were on lock down, I with no Vitamin C in the house, UGH! I was drinking lemon water (like my life depended on it) until I could finally get out to the store yesterday to get something for my immune system. Son and I have begun our immune system boosting with these quite interesting gummy chews. They have 1000 mg of Vitamin C and Calcium to help absorb. I even lucked out, they were buy one, get one free. Now, just to wait and see if Son and I fall victim, as the germs have now had three days to catch up to us, this the cycle they most often follow.

Yesterday was gorgeous, so I aired out the house, opening all windows. In fact, you wouldn’t know a hurricane had come through the day before if it were not for the view of all the downed fencing. I have also been running my DoTerra essential oils “On Guard” in the diffuser. Hubby and daughter are seemingly on the road to recovery. Both are quite red around the nose and talk with a bit of a comical nasally voice. But, both have passed the stage of misery and are up and about today.

After a few nights of Hubby and I sleeping in separate spots, I am hopeful we soon will be back to normal. However, this morning I am feeling the beginnings of a sore throat…I may have fallen victim to this bug yet!


View from out back window of fencing damage.



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This and That

Sharing a bit about myself, so here are some fun facts and personal photos…I hope you enjoy. And, if you want to get in on the party, feel free to follow this link. Cee’s- Share Your World: Week 40

  1. Why did you start blogging? I enjoy connecting with others and writing is a passion. In blogging I get to do both. It is also a great therapy outlet.
  2. A piece of clothing you still remember? I remember playing dress-up with my sister in old Bride’s Maides dresses. We were quite “girlie” and enjoyed playing princess and dancing. My mom got them for us from thrift stores, she was inventive.


    “Playing Dress Up”

  3. Who are you trying to reach with your blog? Anyone that is interested in reading it. I am passionate, with hope that I can be a source of encouragement and interest to all who come across me. I am still humbled that others find my words meaningful and worth reading!
  4. Is there a stuffed animal in your bedroom? Oh yes! I have always love stuffed animal. And at the age of 36, I am not embarrassed to say that there is actually more than one laying around. Here is my newest addition “Myrtle the Turtle”!


    “Myrtle the Turtle”

  5. The best birthday present ever? When I turned 16, my now husband gave me a beautiful gold heart necklace. Still one of my most cherished memories.


    “My Sweet 16 Gift”

  6. What would surprise me about you? I suffer from Mesophonia- read and learn about it here> The NY Times

Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up?  I am grateful for my children and their continued progress in this school year. As a homeschool mom, some weeks are tough, but it was an encouraging week. The coming week I look forward to time with a friend and nice weather.



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Sentimental Morsels

As we enter into October and the fall weather is in full swing, I am reminded of many pass-times that take place in our family this time of year. Some we have started as our own traditions with the kids, others are born from Hubby’s or my own childhood. One of my favorites has been baking with my two munchkins over the years.

I get quite nostalgic and sentimental about my own memories with my mom. As we neared the holidays we would often spend a week baking sweets and treats. Picking and choosing from recipes that we, as kids, liked the most. Some recipes handed down from Gram, to Mom and now to me and my two. Usually including some of Dad’s favorites and those we could send off to a relative or neighbor as a gift.

The holidays also included many times to gather with family over food. Often at my grandparent’s house as a child. And then, as time went on, my family would often venture to our house for a holiday or two. Now that I have moved away from family, this time of year can also be a bit sad for me, as I look back at these family moments that no longer occur. However, with my two now teenagers, I hope that I am planting morsels of tradition and nostalgia within them. Many of which I imagine will have to do with food.

“For it is up to you and me
to take solace
in nostalgia’s arms
and our ability
to create
the everlasting
from fleeting moments.”
― Sanober Khan, A touch, a tear, a tempes

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It’s A Pirate’s Life

Happy “International Talk Like A Pirate Day“! In honor of today I’m going to give a little info, a few tips and share some photos I’ve taken. Let’s have some fun and get your kids involved or just the child in you.


First, where does this day to don an eye patch, carry a parrot, walking with a peg leg, buccaneering and the use of words like “Arg” and “Shiver me timbers” come from?

Well, according to TimeAndDate.com– “International Talk Like A Pirate Day is a parody holiday annually held on September 19. Celebrated for the first time in 1995, the fun holiday encourages people to talk and dress like the sea plunderers of yesteryears.

John Baur (“Ol’ Chumbucket”) and Mark Summers (“Cap’n Slappy”) created this holiday on June 6, 1995. Out of respect for World War II’s D-Day, Baur and Summers chose to move the date of the holiday to September 19.

International Talk Like A Pirate Day was a low-key event until 2002 when it received media attention via syndicated humor columnist Dave Barry. Today, it is celebrated around the world as a way to raise funds for charity organizations, such as Childhood Cancer Support and Marie Curie Cancer Care.”

Second, are a few tips on how to put on your best pirate speach, “Me harties!” Some pirate lingo from Chiff.com suggests:

  • Start right away by dropping your “g’s” – as in sailin’ or drinkin’.
  • Avoid any pronunciation of “r’s” so that “ever” becomes “e’er”, and “never” becomes “ne’er”.
  • Substitute “you” for “ye” and “my” for “me”. For example: “I want me grog ye scurvy dog!”
  • If all else fails, begin every other sentence with a scowl and a hearty “Aarrgh.”

Third, if you want to get in on some freebies and specials going on around your town. The Times has some recommendations for you.  “Businesses are using the holiday as an excuse for promotions. Long John Silver’s is giving away free whitefish if you just say “Arrr!”, and Krispy Kremewill dole out a donut to anyone yakking like a scoundrel on the high seas. Radio station DJs have promised to broadcast in pirate-ese. And Mango, a company that produces language-learning software, has put together an elaborate tutorial to help you “parley” in “perfect Pirate” for the occasion. You can even find out your pirate name using this pirate name generator. All of which raises the question of what, exactly, it means to talk like a pirate.”

Personally I think getting in on the Krispy Kreme freeby sounds like fun!kkpirate

Lastly, a few photos I took recently near me. They do this great pirate ride for kids or kids-at-heart, near Myrtle Beach in Murrell’s Inlet. Also, if you’d like to reach another piece about pirates, I wrote this one earlier this month. “Shock and Aarrr!


by~Southern By Design


by~Southern By Design


by~Southern By Design




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What Makes A Hero?

“I am of certain convinced that the greatest heroes are those who do their duty in the daily grind of domestic affairs whilst the world whirls as a maddening dreidel.” ~Florence Nightingale

What truly makes one a superhero? In my little corner of the world I cannot think of a better hero to name than the person I call Hubby and my kids call Dad. Just some of his attributes include- being kind, patient, humble and putting others first. He is highly committed to our family and also to his faith. His love and support even on the hardest of days is truly a superpower! He isn’t perfect, but as Kevin Costner said, “Real heroes are men who fall and fail and are flawed, but win out in the end because they’ve stayed true to their ideals and beliefs and commitments.”

I am grateful for his willingness to teach our kids and when he takes time out for them- just to do the “little things.” He has many talents, but does not flaunt his abilities. As my best friend he so often considers my wants and needs before his own. He works hard to provide for us and when others are in need his charity is very generous. Often when doing kind deeds it is in secret so that no one knows it is he who did them. A truer hero I could never meet. He may not be out saving lives, but in my eyes he is a great man, husband and dad.

“Yes, there are plenty of heroes and heroines everywhere you look. They are not famous people. They are generally obscure and modest people doing useful work, keeping their families together and taking an active part in the health of their communities, opposing what is evil (in one way or another) and defending what is good. Heroes do not want power over others.” ~Edward Abbey


 “Our Hero” by Southern By Design




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The Beach and 18 Years

“Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it be rather a moving sea between the shores of your souls.”~Kahlil Gibran

Today is a celebration of my 18th wedding anniversary with my best friend and love of my life. We started the day watching the sunrise from the beach, a favorite of ours. I thought I’d share some of our views with you from our glorious morning.I also thought I’d share a few ways to keep a relationship going strong and some of the ways we’ve managed to do so for 21 years in total… and be more in love than ever!


Communication— During the day, send a text or put a note somewhere they will find it, to know you were thinking about them. Make time to talk over dinner about your day or in the evening over a drink. Always make an effort to share even just 10 minutes away from electronics and communicate.

And when you are upset or another emotion arises (as they often do) learn to open up during those times too.


Care– This one may seem obvious. However, I mean care about what your spouse has interest in. While you both are different, learn to share in a common interest of the other. While it may not always be easy, it is a great way to learn about one another and spend time together, while bonding. Which brings me to the next point…


Time– Spending time together may also seem obvious, however the longer you are together, it can become easy to drift into habits that don’t include the other person. It is detrimental to your relationship’s health that you purpose to make time to do things together. We still enjoy dates every week and time together at night. It doesn’t have to be a huge portion of time. However, I highly recommend at least one date a month.

When you have small children these times are even more precious, so find a good babysitter!

Forgiveness– Holding onto bitterness is poison to a marriage. So is the lack of being able to say the words, “I’m sorry”! This was and is a hard one for me, I have a difficult time admitting when I’m wrong. But, I have recognized this about myself and I am learning to do better. That is part of growing and maturing in relationships. My husband has taught me a lot about saying sorry, even when he wasn’t in the wrong. It is a strong person that can do this and even stronger is the one who forgets and never brings it up again!


In Sickness & Dysfunction- I have struggles with depression. There have been times in my past that have not been easy for my spouse. We also have had multiple trials from outside sources over the years. Through all of these ups and downs, we have remained strong for one another. This is very important and necessary. When the going gets tough, you stick it out and hold the other person up. You give of your own strength to help get them through. And you always remain a joint unit to those outside who will try to tear you apart. Do not let anyone or thing come between you!

Above all else…

Put The Other Person First– I cannot enphasize this enough. Our policy has been, if you put the other person in the marriage first your needs will always be met. When you don’t think about yourself but stay focused on giving for the other person, the needs you have will also become less important. Marriage is a joint endevor. One that takes hard work, commitment and even compromise. But, like a precious treasure, it is worth all this…and more!



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The Spirit of Love

“True love is like Ghosts, which everyone talks about and few have seen.” ~Francois de La Rochefoucauld

I am blessed to be able to say that I found my true love. At the end of August we will celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary- we have known each other for 21 years! Our love story is nothing over the top. We met when I was in high school and he the older man. We got married when I was 18- not because I was pregnant, but because we truly knew that this was what God intended for us. I think it is so unheard of these days to get married young, but we were in love and we couldn’t wait to start our lives together!

We had met at church when my family moved to this, to say small is overstated, town. It was really the last place I would have expected to find anyone, let alone the love of my life. But, the day we moved into our house, [He] came riding up on a motorcycle. Man, my heart still skips a beat thinking about that day! He didn’t know us, but had heard a family was moving to town, a friend of the pastor’s. That is just who he was, and still is today, he enjoys helping others.

He quickly became a family friend, helping out. He has abilities my dad does not when it comes to being a handy man. From fixing cars to appliances, he is a Jack of all trades. His parents also became friends with mine and so the friendships grew. We truly started out our relationship as friends. But by the time I had become an upperclassmen we were in love. Not the crush kind of love, but a deep down friendship based type.

We did not date in the terms most would consider normal. Because of our age differences we courted. That is, we were always chaperoned by parents, siblings or friends. Now as a parent myself I cannot even imagine letting one of my teenagers go out with someone six years older, but he was not just anyone! His heart was always in the right place. He too had never been in a relationship. It was new and pure for us both. It is hard to explain to someone who has not heard of or experienced [this].


My Hun & I ~Southern By Design

I can honestly say, I would still do it all over again- we really grew up together. I would say that we have only found more love and friendship over the 18 years of marriage. No, things are not always perfect, but they are pretty darn close. We have gone through hardships, just like anyone. But, in those times we have drawn closer and grown. It is through those that we are where we are today and, I would not trade any of them! 




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