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Elegant Audrey~The Life Of

“For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.
For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.
For beautiful hair, let a child run his fingers through it once a day.
For poise, walk with the knowledge you’ll never walk alone.”~Audrey Hepburn

One of my favorite actresses growing up was Audrey Hepburn. My parents were very strict about our television, so musicals and older movies were popular with us. Some of my faves were- “My Fair Lady,” “Gigi” and “Funny Face.”


“Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, it’s at the end of your arm. As you get older, remember you have another hand: The first is to help yourself, the second is to help others.” ~Audrey Hepburn

I have always thought she was such an elegant woman. Yes, she was fabulous in style and beauty. She appeared to always have a spectacular smile and sparkle in her eyes. But, her character far exceeded her talent and appearance in life. She was truly extraordinary and taken too soon from this world!


“Hepburn appeared in fewer films as her life went on, devoting much of her later life to UNICEF. She had contributed to the organisation since 1954, then worked in some of the poorest communities of Africa, South America and Asia between 1988 and 1992. She was awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom in recognition of her work as a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador in December 1992. A month later, Hepburn died of appendiceal cancer at her home in Switzerland at the age of 63.” ~Wikipedia


Audrey Hepburn (1929-1992)

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Fizz, Fizz


“Plop, plop, fizz, fizz- Oh, what a relief it is!” ~AlkaSeltzer

If you are over 30 you probably will remember this creative commercial coined by Alka-Seltzer. Reading the word for the Daily Prompt: Plop, it is the first thing that comes to mind. I’ve never used this product before, although my husband and son have tried some experiments with Alka-Seltzer. These little tabs of fizz have many fun uses, other than calming an upset stomach. Here’s a link if you are interested in some Science experiments that are sure to have kids and adults alike enjoying the “plop, plop, fizz, fizz”!

Now onto my second thought and that was fizz. I am not much of a drinker and in fact only started to partake a couple of years ago. That in itself is another story, but really has to do with beliefs and upbringing. Anyway, I do enjoy some fizzy Mascato wine. Ok, I also like hard cider, mamosas, sea breeze… Well, you get the point, I enjoy fizzy. Funny enough though, I don’t care for straight soda (unless it’s a hard rootbeer). I also have found that I’m really not a fan of beer. I have attempted at a few, including lighter brews, can’t do it!


“There comes a time in every woman’s life when the only thing that helps is a glass of champagne.” ~Bette Davis

Recently I visited a local grocery store, Lowe’s Foods, if you’re in or around the Carolinas you will know the one. Now, they have a ‘Beer Den’ where you can buy a pint and walk around the grocery store whilst sipping beer or wine. I’m not one to do so, but, I was intrigued by the new seasonal flavor on tap, “Peach Cider.” I believe it is made in NC and I’m interested to taste it. The local harvest is peaches and we are getting into the full swing. I was reading that it is a hard apple cider which is then infused with peaches. Sounds quite delicious! I’d love to hear from you- What is your ‘go t0’ drink of choice?




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We Go Together Like…


“Romance novels are birthday cake and life is often peanut butter and jelly. I think everyone should have lots of delicious romance novels lying around for those times when the peanut butter of life gets stuck to the roof of your mouth.”~Janet Evanovich

cinderella-cute-disney-drawings-girl-Favim.com-435179My favorite fairy tale growing up was Cinderella. You’ve got to love a girl who can sing and have animals appear, has a fairy godmother that gives her a makeover and then meets a prince who falls in love with her at first glance. This is the “stuff” little girls (and big girls) dreams are made of! And, while I do believe in love at first sight, as I have experienced it, I also believe in the reality of life! I’m not cynical… honest! I’ve been in an amazing relationship for 21 years, 18 of it married. However, it takes work!

Life and relationships are not all romance and perfection. Seriously, why do we set our kids up to believe this? While I do believe it’s great to have dreams and believe in love, I don’t think reality is anything like Disney portrays! Every girl does not need rescued, by a man that she in turn will love and marry right after meeting. In fact, many women are quite strong and would just as soon be on their own- however, society often looks sideways at this. And then, there are those like myself, married young and enjoying married life (we are strong too). There is nothing wrong with either choice.

hearteyesWhen going into a relationship or marriage however, it is very important to understand that it is not all hearts in the eyes, with romantic music playing in the background. Life is messy, confusing and often just straight out crazy! Put two people together that are different in many ways, better yet- sprinkle in some kids and POOF! That is not your fairy godmother, that is life swinging you around by the seat of your pants, right into a wall. The unexpected will happen, the mundane will happen and yes even beautifully unforgettable moments will happen. But, there will be a mixture that you most likely will not be prepared for, as you begin your journey.

You may be thinking, “Wow, she is not selling relationships very well!” My point is this, you should go in with eyes wide open. My husband and I have had our ups and downs. Blessed with kids (and sometimes cursed) we have learned how to raise together. We have been through trials that brought us closer and we have learned the ebb and flow to eachother. It takes commitment, understanding, willingness to forgive and more. The belief that when you chose to say “I do” and “until death do us part” you meant every word. That failure, giving up and divorce is just not an option! So, here is to success…


Relationships are not a “piece of cake”~ it’s okay, because, we go together like peanut butter and jelly anyway!

~Southern By Design





Other posts on love & life:The Beach and 18 YearsThe Spirit of Love

via Daily Prompt: Cake

via Daily Prompt: Together


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In My Opinion

“There’s an ad for every vice. That’s advice.” ~Brian Spellman, If the mind fits, shrink it


Similar to my previous post, “Everyone’s An Expert”, you will also find that everyone has advice they wish to impart. I am not opposed to advice, after all, aren’t blogs full of [it]? But, I am cautious when it comes to guidance and from whom I actually listen to. In the past I have taken for granted that everyone actually knows what they are talking about when they give you input. However, in reality it is likely to be more opinion than fact- their personal ‘take’ on a situation is swaying thee imparted advice.

Funniest-Minions-Quotes-On-The-Internet-405Don’t get me wrong, life experiences make us who we are and will impact how we view situations. This may play a positive roll or negative in the given point of view. So, it is our responcibility to make sure we are following sound instruction from a trusted place. And, just because a person is your friend and you have much in common, this doesn’t mean they are a good source for input. Often we choose those most like us for advice, but in reality we need someone that isn’t afraid to be completely honest with us, even if it may be diffucult for us to hear. This is often hard for a friend or loved one if they fear losing your relationship over being honest in their counsel.


Finally, it is okay to disreguard advice. After all, we have a heart and brain that are often great sources to follow. Often some of the greatest mistakes in life lead to the most valuable life lesson, results of not listening to someone’s advice.


“I always pass on good advice. It is the only thing to do with it. It is never of any use to oneself.” ~Oscar Wilde

“I am glad that I paid so little attention to good advice; had I abided by it I might have been saved from some of my most valuable mistakes.”~Edna St. Vincent Millay


via Daily Prompt: Vice


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The Beach and 18 Years

“Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it be rather a moving sea between the shores of your souls.”~Kahlil Gibran

Today is a celebration of my 18th wedding anniversary with my best friend and love of my life. We started the day watching the sunrise from the beach, a favorite of ours. I thought I’d share some of our views with you from our glorious morning.I also thought I’d share a few ways to keep a relationship going strong and some of the ways we’ve managed to do so for 21 years in total… and be more in love than ever!


Communication— During the day, send a text or put a note somewhere they will find it, to know you were thinking about them. Make time to talk over dinner about your day or in the evening over a drink. Always make an effort to share even just 10 minutes away from electronics and communicate.

And when you are upset or another emotion arises (as they often do) learn to open up during those times too.


Care– This one may seem obvious. However, I mean care about what your spouse has interest in. While you both are different, learn to share in a common interest of the other. While it may not always be easy, it is a great way to learn about one another and spend time together, while bonding. Which brings me to the next point…


Time– Spending time together may also seem obvious, however the longer you are together, it can become easy to drift into habits that don’t include the other person. It is detrimental to your relationship’s health that you purpose to make time to do things together. We still enjoy dates every week and time together at night. It doesn’t have to be a huge portion of time. However, I highly recommend at least one date a month.

When you have small children these times are even more precious, so find a good babysitter!

Forgiveness– Holding onto bitterness is poison to a marriage. So is the lack of being able to say the words, “I’m sorry”! This was and is a hard one for me, I have a difficult time admitting when I’m wrong. But, I have recognized this about myself and I am learning to do better. That is part of growing and maturing in relationships. My husband has taught me a lot about saying sorry, even when he wasn’t in the wrong. It is a strong person that can do this and even stronger is the one who forgets and never brings it up again!


In Sickness & Dysfunction- I have struggles with depression. There have been times in my past that have not been easy for my spouse. We also have had multiple trials from outside sources over the years. Through all of these ups and downs, we have remained strong for one another. This is very important and necessary. When the going gets tough, you stick it out and hold the other person up. You give of your own strength to help get them through. And you always remain a joint unit to those outside who will try to tear you apart. Do not let anyone or thing come between you!

Above all else…

Put The Other Person First– I cannot enphasize this enough. Our policy has been, if you put the other person in the marriage first your needs will always be met. When you don’t think about yourself but stay focused on giving for the other person, the needs you have will also become less important. Marriage is a joint endevor. One that takes hard work, commitment and even compromise. But, like a precious treasure, it is worth all this…and more!



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Compromise Nothing

“If you set out to be liked, you would be prepared to compromise on anything at any time, and you would achieve nothing.” ~Margaret Thatcher

Everyone wants to be liked. It goes back to grade school and follows us into adulthood. We are social beings and so this gives us an inert desire to be accepted. However, as I have grown and matured, I have learned that in an effort to achieve past friendships I cheated myself. I compromised who I am with who others expected me to be. I squelched the flame within myself to maintain friendships that were built on deception. Not their deceit, but mine. I lied to myself about who I was, and in so doing kept myself from flourishing for many years. In the end, well as the saying goes “hind sight is 20/20.” I know I made mistakes and unfortunately they led to sadness and pain. So, the take away, always be true to you. Do not change who you are to please others or have friendships. Relationships built on lies are not worth having! 

The Daily Word Prompt: Cheat

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Your Mistakes~Reflect

“We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.”
~Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

Ever since coming across this quote I have loved it. I have made many mistakes in life, and like everyone I have regrets. But, not allowing these to be what makes me who I am, that has been key to having success. Spending time dwelling on your failures is not going to change what has been. So, learn from your mistakes, dust yourself off and look to the future. Remember, tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it…yet.


My entry for- Daily Word Prompt: Mistake & #SoCS Challenge: “your/you’re/yore


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Project BMG – Thee Elusive Dream

So very excited to be a guest blogger for Roberta Pimentel and her “Project BMG”. I hope you will hop over and check out her sight, it’s a lovely spot. Also, take a moment to read my featured piece.

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My Journey In Faith


I grew up in a very devout faith based home. My father was a minister in a Baptist church for many years during my childhood. I spent a lot of time serving and learning ministries. My husband and I met through church and spent our first 14 years together serving in church…A LOT! We raised our kids in church for 13 of those years. However, much has changed in the last three years.

“Be a good witness by the way you live. The way we live is often more convincing than the words we say.”~Billy Graham

After marrying and moving we found a little church in a quaint Vermont suburb. As a newly married and very young couple we found it to be perfect, with many other young couples as members. Their beliefs were the same as ours and we made quick friends of the core group of families, as well as the Pastor. A friendly bunch, we were always serving together and outside of church we were getting together at each other’s houses. We had pregnancies together, spent holidays together, did birthday parties and babysat for one another. It was as though we were extensions of one another’s families.

For over 14 years life was blissfully happy, in fact we had all but ostracized ourselves from our actual family. Church and church “family” was our life. My husband and I held over six positions within the church by this time- deacon, accountant, computer and sound system laymen, adult Sunday school teacher, head usher, choir and more. We were in church all of Sunday, every Wednesday night and any extra days in between that we were needed.church 

Then, in an instant this life that we thought we were sure of and knew was gone. Families that we held close bonds with, we thought unbreakable, turned on us. The deceit, the bitterness, the hypocrisy, the lack of forgiveness and more all came to light. We were shunned for one family’s, one person’s words. The people we considered to be our closest friends…NO, family, had turned on us, ostracized us. The devastation was nearly insurmountable. People took sides, the Pastor was of no help and in the end we were left with only the option of leaving. Quietly, as if thieves in the night, we left. We did not get to tell our story, in fact we had not told anyone what happened, only “the others” were sharing their lies. But, we needed to leave with our dignity and our testimony, we would not be pulled down to throwing stones at glass houses.

“The lukewarm Christian can accomplish nothing with a whole life in which to do it. If you have lived for sin and self . . . your witness will have [a] telling effect on all who have known you.” ~Billy Graham

So, why do I share all of this? Well, I tell you my story after living through the hypocrisy and seeing the lowest of Christian behavior, because I have learned so much! About myself, about my faith and about what people will believe. I was pulled in, I was brought down to a level that was not okay- my witness was blemished. People could believe the lies because like these that we chose to be close to, I had become a haughty Christian! I spoke about people behind their backs with these “friends”, believed I was better than others and bought in to all that I was being served. Yet, when things went sideways, no one was there for us- even the Pastor did not practice what he preached. 

Here I am over three years later. Not in contact with one person from that past life. Fourteen years wiped away as if it never happened. My children lost all friends and perhaps for a while faith in having friendships. I have worked through many of my own demons, as has my husband. Learning to rebuild trust and faith, learning to forgive even though no forgiveness was ever asked for. Believing that this is not what God and faith are about, man is flawed not God. I’ve really come to a place where I know what I believe outside of church. I have not ever lost my faith in God, only my faith in people- because they will let you down! And most of all, coming to the realization that I can be a witness anywhere, even here on this blog. God is not to be put in a box (or a church for that matter) like so many would like to do. His love and who He is can be witnessed anywhere as long as I am willing to be a testimony for Him. “The greatest way to witness is through the life you live. Let the radiance of your Christian life be such that it will make [others] ask questions about your [faith].”~Billy Graham


Other offerings by this Author:To Be or Not To Be, SorryThe Spirit of Love

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An Ode To Coffee


Photo by Southern By Design

An Ode To Coffee

Oh coffee wonderful coffee

How early in the morning you’re poured to greet me

Before my eyes are barely open your aroma is sweet upon the air

I owe my very life to the single serve ability of my coffee maker

Without you I would be thrown into thee endless waiting abyss

Truly “The bean of my existence”

Oh coffee wonderful coffee

Written by~Southern By Design (MM)

Photo by Southern by Design


Expressing my love for the creation of coffee and the design of the Keurig single serve that makes my mornings easier and happier. via Discover Challenge: Designed for You

Check out my other offerings on coffee and food: Praise Be To Coffee~The Bean Of My ExistenceThe Love Of FoodGive Me Sugar and No One Gets Hurt




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