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Force Unstoppable

“If you add your hot passion to the cold attitude of another person, it becomes lukewarm. Don’t stand on the toes of dwarfs; stand on the shoulders of giants!”
~Israelmore Ayivor, Leaders’ Watchwords

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I have fire burning within, a raging ember

Refusing to let others put out my passions

Never changing myself for another, never

Choosing people that add only positivity 

They will raise me up, not bring me down

No water can turn me lukewarm, I’m a force

For when my fire burns hot, I’m unstoppable©

by Mac

 

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Resolve This

“The aftertaste of New Year’s Eve parties wears on me for the same reason I am not much for resolutions. Dusting off a stepper because we switched out our calendar is pointless. After all, society also conditions that most will whiff their resolutions by January 3rd, at which point one is to abandon the resolutions utterly and feel guilty as one devours a box of Christmas chocolates.”~Thomm Quackenbush, A Creature Was Stirring

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Well, here we are, the New Year! And what is the first thing that many people are asking me about or worse, sharing (which I could really care less about)? Their New Years resolution! UGH!

Stop! I do not care what you have resolved to do! No, really, I hate the cliche’ “New Year’s Resolution”! You may be reading this right now and asking, “Why?” or “Aren’t you hoping to have a good, accomplished year, with goals?” Well, yes, of course. But, how that is accomplished has NOTHING to do with the New Year.

I do not need the mark of a new year, a new month, a new week or even a new day to decide that I am going to change. Now, why this has become the norm; well, we seem as a society to enjoy marking life changes with fantastic “Pomp and Circumstance.” But, so often, as the quote above implies, these resolutions are short lived.

If you want to really make changes, set goals and accomplish great things (or even mediocre) then just resolve to not make a New Year’s resolution. Instead, dig deep, work hard, set goals and do your best to stick with them. But, if something happens, it is okay. Failure, mistakes, and loss of perspective are all normal. For many though, these will be the things that make them give up on their resolution as fast as they made it!

But, realize this, here and now, a resolution does not make or break your success in this 2017 year! Yes, I just said that! Go on now, why don’t you say it too? Happy New Year!

 

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Take Note and Stick To It

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Sometimes we need a little motivation to keep us on the path. So, today I’m reminding you that no one gets anywhere in life without risk. If you would like more encouragement on the topic, I recommend reading “Dare To Risk It.”

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Daily Word Prompt: Daring

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Give Me Sugar and No One Gets Hurt

“Just think of all those women on the Titanic who said, ‘No thank you’ to desert that night. And for what?!” ― Erma Bombeck

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My life has been an endless struggle with my weight. When I was younger I always was one of the bigger gals in class, or so I thought. I think it really had a lot to do with perception. I look back at old pictures and certainly I was never petite, I have big bone structure and I’m tall. But, I think that food has always been a problem, or perhaps thee obsession with it. The cravings are real!

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I come from a family that has always dealt with their weight. Generationally, my grandparents and extended family, on both sides, right down to my parents and sibling- all struggle with weight. So, growing up, I was not really taught to be active and our eating was not always healthy. Of course as a child of the 80’s & 90’s, it was the years of boxed, conveniently packaged and preservative filled everything!

Although, thankfully, I did not end up with an eating disorder, I do think it was the beginning of some body dysmorphia. I believe what counteracted this weight issue, I have always been very confident, so I’d just throw back my head and make the best of life. But, again, I look back at pictures and think, “Wow I was NOT heavy!” So where did this obsession with thinking I was fat come from? 

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Our culture’s perception of what beauty, healthy and perfect look like, play a big role in society. But I also think that I grew up around a LOT of negative self-talk about body image, also an obsession with weight loss and dieting. Still, to this day, my family gets very verbal about our bodies. Although we all live in separate parts of the country, one of the first things we talk about on the phone is how our newest weight loss is going (or not going). And, as much as I’d like to say I think this will change, I don’t think that it will. However, I am working on the next generation!

I am trying very hard to break the cycle with my kids. Although my husband and I both struggle with weight (and now I am over weight) we attempt to not put this onto our kids. I do not make comments about their bodies and endorse positivity. But, the biggest goal has been to promote healthy eating, life style and being active. Also, working on NOT being negative or putting myself down…this one is hard at times!

“It is easier to change a man’s religion than to change his diet.”― Margaret Mead

I have realized I am a food addict. And unlike other addictions, unfortunately I need food to survive. I have yo-yoed through my 20’s and over half of my 30’s with my weight. I am currently not at my highest weight, but still not where I need to be. 

th-21A year ago we moved South, mainly because we needed the warmer claimant, for health reasons. We needed our family to be able to be active year around. It really has helped, in four months I had lost 30 pounds. Just good old walking, weights and “clean” eating. I refuse to diet or get on the fad band-wagon! But…yes there is a but, unfortunately. I have begun to fall off the wagon yet again! I crave sugar like a drug addict wants crack! I have done sugar detoxes before, man they are brutal! I know it’s what I need… But, I really want that cinnamon roll, ice cream, cake and oh the list goes on- not to mention pizza! And, even though I feel better when I’m living healthy, my stinking mind craves this unhealthy diet.

I do not write this to get sympathy. I know it is my own fault I am where I am and I truly don’t blame anyone but myself. I write this for myself, to put it in black and white, to see that the issue is present. Maybe I will also help another person who struggles, to know, you are not alone in this! I want to break this cycle, I want to succeed and live a long life! But, I also don’t want to get caught up in negativity of self and society’s idea of what my body should be. 

“I finally figured out the big, elusive secret to weight loss. Don’t eat! Who knew?” 
― Richelle E. Goodrich, Smile Anyway

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To Be or Not To Be, Sorry

“An apology might help, but you can change your life without one.” Robin Quivers

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This is a really hard and personal topic for me. I have felt the bitterness that comes with holding on to anger. I have lived through the sting of other’s unwillingness to forgive, a most devistating loss. And, I have had to learn that one can be sorry to the deepest depths of their soul and still never be forgiven. It is one of the greatest and hardest lessons in life to learn, to forgive another, even if the apology never comes. And, perhaps harder still, is to learn how you can forgive yourself!

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Life is full of so many lessons. And, just when you believe that you’ve learned everything [it] throws a wrench in the works. So, here I am years later with the battle scares to show, sometimes you really know very little! People will surprise you, turn on you and throw you away. Perhaps, Oscar Wilde said it best of all, “True friends stab you in the front.”

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As many times as I apologized, true forgiveness was witheld. Later the choice to walk away from a 14 year friendship was necessary, for self-preservation’s sake. And finally anger came, not crept, it came in stomping and smashing everything in its wake. This tragic loss of friendship taught me some of the greatest lessons in forgiveness, however. I wish I could say that I learned them in a dignified way, with class. No, this lesson was messy and unrefined! I had to battle my inner demons, truly learn what forgiving is all about and why choosing forgiveness is for you NOT them

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Forgiveness is not a one time thing. It is not a magic word you say or deed you do and poof its done. I have had, at times, to choose and purpose to forgive daily. There is certainly a process and it has taken time and lots and LOTS of energy. And really I am not here to tell you how to accomplish it. Everyone’s struggle is different and I do not believe it is the same steps that get everyone from point A to point B. I do believe however, you will be happier when you choose to let go and live.

“Forgiveness is the sweetest revenge.” Isaac Friedmann

“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” Paul Boese

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From Admire To Inspire

“It is impossible to escape the impression that people commonly use false standards of measurement — that they seek power, success and wealth for themselves and admire them in others, and that they underestimate what is of true value in life.” ― Sigmund Freud

I have never been one to throw around the word admiration, I feel in this day and age we have too many people that use [it] flippantly. Our society seems to get caught up in Hollywood characters and political heads, and don’t get me wrong, I do as well. But, when I hear someone say (in a tone of awe), “I admire…” in reference to this figure they don’t even know– Let’s just say I get a bit annoyed! In my opinion, they are all doing a good job admiring themselves, patting each other on the backs and throwing a myriad of awards  and ceremonies at one another. They say money can’t buy you happiness, but it sure can find you admiration.

eba43d888d2958d4c7540aafa87a64cbIn my life I believe I have only ever truly admired one person. Although many have made it to the runners-up position, one holds the place of honor. She knew me all my life and in adulthood became a dear friend. This person was my grandmother or Gram as I fondly donned her. An exceptional lady, full of spunk, wisdom and endless stories. If you were to ask me to tell you why I admire her, I’m not sure that I could truly put a finger on the reason. Like choosing a favorite dessert, picking a favorite moment, well there just isn’t one.

A few elements of my Gram. She was raised the middle child, the rose between two thorns. She grew up in Marblehead, MA, which is now quite prestigious (although she did not come from wealth). As an outlying Boston town, she visited Boston as a child, with fond memories of baseball games with her father. She traveled as a young woman to NY City and lived there for a time. She married my Gramps and together they traveled the world, as he had a career in the Air Force. Along their journeys she had three children, one of whom is my mom. Eventually, retiring from military life, they chose Vermont to return to.

“It’s not the beauty of a person you should admire. It is the purity of heart that deserves your admiration.” ― Karon Waddell

I had never lived near my grandparents as a child. However, they had played positive roles in my life as a constant presence. Early in my marriage, my husband and I moved to the same city as them. At that time my grandparents had been married for nearly 50 years, surely something to admire! The time that I was given to spend with Gram over the next 13 years was immeasurable in value. She taught me to cook, bake, sew, crochet and so much more. We had so many similar likes and dislikes, I could just talk with her for hours. And, oh the stories! Both my children were also blessed to have her as their “GG.”

During the end of her life I was blessed to spend time with her regularly. Many are certainly not given this gift. She was able to make sure my children, husband and I knew her love for us. She was able to inspire us in our life ahead. And keeping with her wittiness to the very end, reminded me- “Michelle, life is like a roll of toilette paper, the closer you get to thee end, the faster it goes!” I felt she always encouraged me to make good use of my time.

Although born years apart, we celebrated our birthdays only days apart. So, every year I am reminded of her on my birthday and the gift of 30+ years I was given with this wonderfully inspiring woman. Her love for her family was insurmountable, she was truly devoted. She and Gramps celebrated their 60th anniversary two months before she died! Even this five years later I still grieve her. She was full of life, love and greatness! She was not perfect, but she overcame many things in life. I miss her, but I am inspired by her and the journey that was her life.

“How wonderful it would be to meet an angel, I mused, but then I immediately realised that I already had. Not an archangel like Saint Michael, but my human angel…” ― Patti Smith 

…My Gram

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Dear Younger Me

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” -H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

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Having recently had another birthday and seeing 40 close at hand, I am feeling old. My daughter has, however, informed me, “You are not old until you are 60!” Well, tell that to my forgetful mind and my aching back! I never could understand when my parents would tell me as a child, life goes faster the older you get. I’d wonder at this saying, but now I understand. And with this passing of time comes change.

“We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better.” ― C. JoyBell C.

I often contemplate what older me would tell younger me. There have been mistakes and disappointments, but I don’t think I would change many of them. I believe those choices and experiences have brought me here and made me who I am. Yes, I think if I could write a letter to younger me I’d say, “Dear Younger Me~ Don’t fear change, waste time being scared of it or mourn it! Change is not what you think, so embrace it!”

I have never really liked change. So much so that as a young person, it would throw me into quite the bad mood (or worse) when something did change. I’m talking small scale, like changing an appointment time or such. I don’t know why I was so opposed to change. Perhaps it is the loss of control, for which I am not fond of. But as I have “grown up” and matured, I finally feel as though I have learned to go with the flow, well a bit more at least. I am sad to think that I probably wasted a lot of time in anxiety over change that was really for the better or simply out of my control! So my goal is this- to look back in another twenty years and see in younger me where I allowed the winds to carry me, instead of fighting against the change.

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Thee Elusive Dream

So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable.” ~Christopher Reeve

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When someone uses the word dream it often feels like an elusive object, perhaps a place or thing that is unreachable. I prefer to think of a dream as a seed– when planted in the soul, watered by trial and error and fertilized by devotion, [it] will sprout into an obtainable goal. Life is too short to live in the realm of dreams, only to forgo your ability to reach them in death. The word goal in my mind’s eye is to see a large target and as you aim, life is thee arrow with which you make your mark.

I never could imagine I would be where I am at this moment. Yes, I believe thee elusive dream had clouded my ability to see my goals, my target becoming a distant spot on the horizon of my life. I sat entombed by my depression, no way to see through the cloud that had become my reality. Self-talk full of negativity and doubt; weeds filled my soul, choking the fragile seedling planted there. I was of the belief, “Dream big or go home” leaving no room for trial and error or small victories.

“Like success, failure is many things to many people. With positive mental attitude, failure is a learning experience, a rung on the ladder, and a plateau at which to get your thoughts in order to prepare to try again.” ~W. Clement Stone

When one hits rock bottom it is rarely a feeling that we share. There are no jovial sounds or triumphant claps to deem this moment a success. If I could describe the feeling in one word it would be defeat. If you consider war, thee enemy overtakes you, then defeat and finally becoming a prisoner. Prison for me was my mind and my body the cell. If there was an escape my own body hid it from me! Often it was as though my body were a double agent suddenly choosing sides, sabotage at times a daily occurrence. It is terrible, this belief that even your own body is against you.

Years later I emerged triumphant after lengthy battles. My mind and body at times still like to quip, but my goals have strength in the deep roots of my soul. I have long since matured out of the phase of dreams. Now, does this mean I don’t dream? Certainly I dream! However, one must know that difference between only dreaming or making dreams into goals and goals into realities. Living a life where you never obtain that elusive dream, well… I don’t want to live there! 

“All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dreams with open eyes, to make it possible.” ~T.E. Lawrence

Also see: Dare To Risk It

 

Word Prompt:Thee Elusive Dream

 

 

 

 

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