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I Do

We gather together for lots of things, but on this day we’ll exchange rings
Many will be surrounding us here, I don’t have cold feet, not even one fear
Patiently I wait to see you walk the isle, beautiful dress and a perfect smile
You look in my eyes and I see them glisten, saying your vows as I do listen
Holding my hand I feel your’s shiver, Darling you still make my heart quiver
Tell you I want you to have and to hold, I’ll love you forever until we are old
As you say “I do” and I place the ring, I’m sure that I heard the angels sing
Nothing’s more perfect then us today, promise we will always feel this way
The way that you look when I steal a glance, reminds me of all the romance
I pull you close, holding you tight, I know we belong and I know this is right
Life is so fleating and time goes so fast, the moments together will not last
Lets make the best of days that we share, never forget how much we care…

Then I awoke from my sleep and looked in your eyes, it felt like a surprise
Your hair it was white, with lines on your face, but I know I’m in my place
Where we belong and time it has flown, together forever and never alone
Our life has been good, sorrows a few, I still recall when we said “I do”…
And I’d do it again©

by Mac

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A New Night

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You have been mistreated and you feel defeated
Let’s make things right, for our love we’ll fight
Setting my heart on fire, you are my one desire
Please do not ever doubt, it’s you I am all about

Emotions may ebb and flow, but I will never go
I’ve chose to walk this way, purposing each day
And when I said forever, that meant us together
We’ll get to the end because you’re my best friend

So, as the sun does set remember the day we met
Holding one another tight all through each night
Stars in the sky remind me you’re my reason why
Look to the moon up above, know it’s you I love©

by Mac

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Destiny Of Souls

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I have known you since forever, where our souls were born above
Here they waited for a lifetime for us to meet and fall in love

The rivers dreamt of you and I, the ocean’s tide spoke our names
We were part of one another until our bodies did this proclaim

There were seeds planted long ago in the soil of each other’s minds
When mine sprouted up in me, your name there I would find

How the world conspired or God chose our fate, we will never know
I believe our hearts were brought together quite a long time ago

No matter how or when or why, doesn’t really matter much to me
As long as in the future, whether together or far apart we be

Let our souls long for eachother, searching through space and time
When finally we meet again, please promise you’ll still be mine©

For My Love, Paul
~Mac

 

 

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We Go Together

We go together like PB and J
We go together just this way

We go together like one and two
We go together just me and you

We go together like sand and seas
We go together a pod with two peas

We go together like here and there
We go together like a matchless pair

We go together like coffee and cream
We go together like love in a dream

We go together like a perfect rhyme
And we’ll go together for a lifetime

Because…
I am yours and you are mine©

by Mac

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Dear Agony

Agony: extreme and generally prolonged pain; intense physical or mental suffering (source)

Life has a way of battering, bruising and taking much from me. My gut has taken a beating. It actually feels like a few feet have taken turns kicking it in. Bedraggled and torn, that is me. My heart must look like a tattered and worn blanket at this point, full of holes; it surely has been used and abused by hard times and losses.

If you look at me you may see a smile on my face, it may even reach my dark, blue eyes. But, I’ve gotten good at hiding my pain and showing no fear. In fact, I have learned to swallow my tears and breathe through the agony. Just please, don’t let one more person ask how I’m doing, dear God!

Depression, anxiety or any other struggle that takes a toll on the mind, body and soul– well you may know exactly what I’m talking about! Or perhaps you have a loved one that suffers from mental illness. It can be nearly as hard, yet an inability to fully understand or help, this can leave you feeling helpless.

Empathy can truly be a breath of fresh air, finding a person that understands the path you’re on. Sympathy is also an amazing gift, but can feel like a slap in the face too. No one wants to feel like a basket-case that you pitty or are sorry for, especially during an already very low, difficult time. So, while you love and care for that person in your life, be sure that you work together to find ways that make them feel positive about your compassion for them.

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I have felt for years that depression was my journey to go alone. My husband could not fully understand this struggle, so it was not his to help me through. In taking this approach I pushed him away every time I was faced with a low. After all, it is my illness and my difficulty. But, after nearly 16 years of taking this attitude, I will tell you, it was to my detriment. Over time, I have injured our relationship in a myriad of ways, in “going it alone”!

I don’t know why I have felt the need to do [this]. My thought process, he couldn’t possibly understand all the thoughts and dark places that my mind goes. The ups and downs, anger and sadness, all that runs through my mind, perhaps within five minutes! But, I often haven’t even give him a chance to comprehend where I am or consider ways he may make my journey easier. No, he can’t remove this burden from me, but he can help to alleviate some of the weight and pain, and even brighten some of the darkness.

We have recently decided to come up with a plan to put in place for when I am completely consumed with my emotions; times where I get so dark and tend to push everyone away. These are the times when I actually need people the most, but tend to be in too deep a fog to know how to even help myself, let alone tell someone else how they can help. My mind can be so weak that it will go to places that it should not and would not otherwise, go. I feel like I am a different person, looking from the outside in, like an out-of-body experience, almost. I don’t even know the person looking back at me in the mirror sometimes. My poems Counterfeit Identity and I Feel Like A Monster are poignant in regards to these feelings. 

Create An Action Plan (6 Ways To Support A Spouse Living With Depression)
This is the most important tip I have to share about this topic. Sit down with your spouse on a good day — a day where they’re feeling happy and calm. Open up a dialogue to co-create an action plan for their low days. How do they want to approach those days? What would they like to experience on those days? And what would help them shift through those days? As the spouse of someone with depression, it’s easy to unconsciously become an enabler by giving into their behavior or letting them slump around the house for days on end because it’s harder to confront them. Don’t let that happen! Co-create an action plan to inspire them to get through those days so they can shift into a happier state of mind. For example, I told my husband that yoga always helps me feel better and even if I have zero desire to leave the house, a yoga class has the power to shift my energy. On my low days my husband will always suggest yoga, and that serves as a reminder of the beautiful action plan we co-created to help get me through those horrible days.

When in the right frame of mind, I and Hubby have come up with our “Action Plan.” These are things that are positive for me, help my mind focus away from the negative and can aide in bringing me out of my low (even if for only a short time).  The list includes things such as: foot massages, bubble baths, ice cream, music and journaling. These are things that I don’t do on a regular basis, but are treats that help me feel well. Most are done with the help of Hubby, because he needs to be involved. If I need my space, he is still there, but in a different capacity. Even these small changes have a big impact, not only on me and my depression, but on our relationship. I highly recommend an action plan! 

Now, I am looking to the future and trying to not deal with my agony all alone, because we are a team, and a team works together. One may have strengths where the other has weaknesses and vice-versa. That is how a team works; they are there for one another, cheering thee other on when they go up against an opponent. So, go team Mac! ©

**Find the song “Dear Agony” by Breaking Benjamin, my inspiration for this piece, HERE.

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Love Is…

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Be mine? Please be my Valentine

When all is said and done

I’ll be your only one

Love is more than words, it’s also verbs

Showing each other that you care

Through it all you’ll be there

Love is actions but it’s also passions

As we become one with desire

Intensities fanning the fire

Love is affection but with reflection

I promise you all my tomorrows

Even the ones with sorrows

Love is adoration and communication

Accepting each other with flaws

And speaking without pause

Love is giving all then more, encore

Because sacrifice may bring pain

But true love brings only gain

Be mine? Please be my Valentine

When all is said and done

You are my only one©

by Mac

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One Heart

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As I shudder, my heart’s aflutter
Love is intoxicating, heart palpitating
The joy it brings, all earth sings
Looking in your eyes, there’s my prize
See your soul, under my control
This great pleasure, it has no measure
Love’s worth, brings such mirth

With this vow of trust, virtue is a must
Breaking a heart, could tear apart
My greatest endeavor, your love forever
Guard our bond, charms abscond
Come in from the cold, have and to hold
From this day and more, as I swore
Together as one heart, never will we part©

by Mac

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