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Living In the Lap of…Mom

“I am a mother and mothers don’t have the Luxury of falling apart in front of their children, even when they are afraid, even when their children are adults.” 
~Kristin Hannah, The Nightingale

Being a mom is the hardest…thing…job…blessing, I continue to do, in my life. And I do not take the responsibility lightly. I have had the luxury that is not afforded all moms and that is the opportunity to be a stay-at-home mom, for the majority of my kid’s lives. Yes, once in a while I chose to work part-time, mainly to get out with adults! Now, I am self-employed and get to do a lot of work from home, a huge blessing.

art-cool-funny-girls-Favim.com-833865Parenting is often a thankless job. No one sees those nightly feedings, changing diapers and lack of sleep. The hours that you spend by your child, worrying as they run a high fever or when they are having surgery. Nothing can truly prepare you for the job of being a mom. Even your own mom telling you stories, the advice of a million other moms or a pediatrician’s reassurance- none of these will be enough to remove the self-doubt, times of guilt and restless nights of worry that accompany the job description of mom.

“guilt to motherhood is like grapes to wine” 
~Fay Weldon  

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Now, coexisting with two teenagers, I have come to realize I am needed less. It is a double-edge sword raising your kids and doing so well. The freedoms that I long desired when they were young are now more readily available to me. But, at times, I truly do miss when they would want to snuggle, climb into my lap to read a book and needed me to do most anything. Although, I cannot say that the frustrations, difficulties and worries are less frequent- just brought on by different things. And as I wrote prior (see “Motherhood~ Identity Crisis”) there are times I just don’t want to be around my kids. But, the majority of the time I just look at the little (even if my son is taller than me) adults they are becoming and am in awe of how quickly the years have gone! I still want to kiss them in public or have their little hands in mine. These are luxuries I no long have, so on to the next chapter we turn.

“Motherhood is a choice you make everyday, to put someone else’s happiness and well-being ahead of your own, to teach the hard lessons, to do the right thing even when you’re not sure what the right thing is…and to forgive yourself, over and over again, for doing everything wrong.”  ~Donna Ball, At Home on Ladybug Farm

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This gave me such a laugh. As a parent, totally have had that moment… Enjoy! 🙂

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Profound Rantings (Of A Sleep Deprived Mom)

Everyone should have kids. They are the greatest joy in the world. But they are also terrorists. You’ll realize this as soon as they are born and they start using sleep deprivation to torture you.” -Ray Ramano 

futureChildren are a blessing, I know this to be true because I have two. But, I’m going to be honest, there are those days, weeks…okay months, where I just don’t want to be around them. Now, I’m being real here, I didn’t say I don’t love them or like them– I’m just saying, there are times when I just don’t want this parenthood gig! 

As of this year I am officially the mom to two teenagers. Now, I thought that the toddler years were rough, *hand to forehead* I was wrong! Or perhaps it’s just that I am older and my level of patience is not what it once was. And by the way, what is with that? Isn’t patience and tolerance suppose to get better as you live longer? I don’t know, maybe it’s just me. I don’t have patience for kids in general these days. I hear kids out in the neighborhood screaming and I am already planning on which retirement community I want to move to!

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I am constantly laying awake in bed at night wondering if I am doing all the right things as a parent. I have little adults that will soon be leaving (one can dream) to go into the real world. Have I done all that I can do to make them productive, hard working parts of society? Is there anything more that I can do or teach them that will be a tool for success? Do they realize I love and believe in them? Oh dear Lord, when did I become my mother? 

“What a kid I got, I told him about the birds and the bees and he told me about the butcher and my wife.” ― Rodney Dangerfield

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Isn’t it great how when you were a kid you thought you knew it all; and then you end up as a parent with that spitting image of yourself? Oh yes, teenagers know it all, just ask mine and he will tell you! My poor parents, I now realize what I put them through. Is it some kind of unspoken rule that you will surely have a child that imitates how you were as a kid? I imagine that if anything, it is your payment for being a jerk as a teenager! Recently both of my kids told me that they don’t want to have kids (like they even know). I told them that I was sad if that was true because I want to be a Meme. But I was thinking, “Lord, please let them have kids so that they can feel the revenge of being a parent!” 

“Having children is like living in a frat house – nobody sleeps, everything’s broken, and there’s a lot of throwing up.” -Ray Ramano

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