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The Beach and 18 Years

“Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it be rather a moving sea between the shores of your souls.”~Kahlil Gibran

Today is a celebration of my 18th wedding anniversary with my best friend and love of my life. We started the day watching the sunrise from the beach, a favorite of ours. I thought I’d share some of our views with you from our glorious morning.I also thought I’d share a few ways to keep a relationship going strong and some of the ways we’ve managed to do so for 21 years in total… and be more in love than ever!


Communication— During the day, send a text or put a note somewhere they will find it, to know you were thinking about them. Make time to talk over dinner about your day or in the evening over a drink. Always make an effort to share even just 10 minutes away from electronics and communicate.

And when you are upset or another emotion arises (as they often do) learn to open up during those times too.


Care– This one may seem obvious. However, I mean care about what your spouse has interest in. While you both are different, learn to share in a common interest of the other. While it may not always be easy, it is a great way to learn about one another and spend time together, while bonding. Which brings me to the next point…


Time– Spending time together may also seem obvious, however the longer you are together, it can become easy to drift into habits that don’t include the other person. It is detrimental to your relationship’s health that you purpose to make time to do things together. We still enjoy dates every week and time together at night. It doesn’t have to be a huge portion of time. However, I highly recommend at least one date a month.

When you have small children these times are even more precious, so find a good babysitter!

Forgiveness– Holding onto bitterness is poison to a marriage. So is the lack of being able to say the words, “I’m sorry”! This was and is a hard one for me, I have a difficult time admitting when I’m wrong. But, I have recognized this about myself and I am learning to do better. That is part of growing and maturing in relationships. My husband has taught me a lot about saying sorry, even when he wasn’t in the wrong. It is a strong person that can do this and even stronger is the one who forgets and never brings it up again!


In Sickness & Dysfunction- I have struggles with depression. There have been times in my past that have not been easy for my spouse. We also have had multiple trials from outside sources over the years. Through all of these ups and downs, we have remained strong for one another. This is very important and necessary. When the going gets tough, you stick it out and hold the other person up. You give of your own strength to help get them through. And you always remain a joint unit to those outside who will try to tear you apart. Do not let anyone or thing come between you!

Above all else…

Put The Other Person First– I cannot enphasize this enough. Our policy has been, if you put the other person in the marriage first your needs will always be met. When you don’t think about yourself but stay focused on giving for the other person, the needs you have will also become less important. Marriage is a joint endevor. One that takes hard work, commitment and even compromise. But, like a precious treasure, it is worth all this…and more!



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Sky Dancing Feathers

“No one is free, even the birds are chained to the sky.”~ Bob Dylan

Some of my favorite photos and most difficult to capture are birds in flight off the shore. They truly are magnificent creatures and I specially love watching them dive into the water or catching gusts of wind and gliding on it. This week’s entry~Cees Fun Foto Challenge: Feathers


Photo by Southern By Design


Photo by Southern By Design








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Inspiring Homeschooler

I hope you will take a moment to read about this inspirational teen and even follow her or share with kids you know. Another post to celebrate the beginning of our school year today.

“Allison, the 16-year-old blogger and photographer at A Farm Girl’s Life, never runs out of ideas. Her blog is proof that life on her family’s farm in Virginia is full of inspiration: she publishes DIY tutorials, craft projects, word challenges, pet and photography posts, and more — and finds creative ways to engage with her readers.”

Photo (and all photos below) by Allison at A Farm Girl’s Life.

The teenage blogger at A Farm Girl’s Life talks about her love for crafts and connecting with readers around the world.

via A Farm Girl’s Life: On DIY, Crafts, and Finding Inspiration Everywhere — Discover

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Golden Haze

“Romance is the glamour which turns the dust of everyday life into a golden haze.”~Elynor GlynIMG_5042“Golden Haze” by~Southern by Design

When the heat and humidity are intense during the summer season there are times when the sky gets hazy. I enjoyed this vantage point-  the sun was on its way down and made a golden haze.

Challenge~Weekly Weather: Fog


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A Rare Game Of Choice~Photo Challenge

“Choices are abundant, it is the right decision which is the rare one!”  ~Mehmet Murat-ildan


“Life Size Chess Board” by~Southern By Design


This is my entry for two challenges this week.

Cee’s Odd Ball Photo Challenge: 2016 Week 33 

The Daily Post Weekly Photo Challenge: Rare


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Through Lenses

“To photograph: it is to put on the same line of sight the head, the eye and the heart.”~Henri Cartier-Bresson


It seems poignant that the Daily Prompt: Eyes is our word, seeing as it is World Photo Day. And what is more visual than the perspectives we get through a camera lens? Being part of an artistic family I have always had a great appreciation for the art of photography. My father and one of my sisters both have thee eye to see what many do not. I love to take pictures, but I would not consider myself a photographer in the true sense of the word.

a-camera-is-a-save-button-for-the-minds-eyeI love the ability to capture moments in time. As a mom, of course, I have millions of pictures of my kids! And, I even have scrapbooks that were such fun to make ages ago! Now, everything I have is mostly digital or on Facebook. Does anyone else have a ton of pictures they need to develop? See, I think this is the difference between thee art of photography and snapshots, developing.

“What I like about photographs is that they capture a moment that’s gone forever, impossible to reproduce.”~Karl Lagerfeld

Have you ever really thought about why photography is so popular? I mean, we are all connected to our phones as though they are an appendage- snapping pics or selfies like our lives depended on it! We have Snapchat, Instagram and other social media outlets where we are documenting, at times by the moment, our days for others (even strangers) to view in images. The dictionary has expanded with words such as selfie; and we have made those who can take a good selfie into celebrities for that “ability” alone!

beautiful life quotes (11)I can’t imagine a world without the beauty of photographs. How dull it would be to never see people, places and things from all over this world. To be unable to share in diverse images- whether beautiful, unique, sad and all thee emotions that can be reached through a picture. Life is too beautiful not to see, share and imagine through photography! So, get out you cameras (or phones) and keep showing your world through your eyes, the camera.


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Life’s Like…

I prefer the quote, “Life’s a beach.” However, one of my Gram’s favorite sayings was, “Life’s like a roll of toilet paper, the closer you get to the end, the faster it goes.” 

Cee’s Black & White Photo Challenge: Bathrooms and Outhouses



More Photo Challenges:

Harbor Walk~This Way

An Inlet Runs Through It





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An Inlet Runs Through It

A Photo a Week Challenge: Cut by a River

“Life in us is like the water in a river.” ~Henry David Thoreau

Around here there aren’t many “rivers” as most large bodies of water are the ocean, water ways or inlets. Here is a photo from Murrell’s Inlet. It is a fabulous little spot outside of Myrtle Beach. Lots of marshes, fishing docks and beautiful photo opportunities.


“Murrell’s Inlet” by~Souther By Design



More of my photo challenges:

Weekly Photo Challenge~Morning

Harbor Walk~This Way

Beach~This Way


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History In The Moon


“I never really thought about how when I look at the moon, it’s the same moon as Shakespeare and Marie Antoinette and George Washington and Cleopatra looked at.” ~Susan Beth Pfeffer

Today’s Daily Prompt had me a little stumped. But, as I was looking into the word I came across thee above quote. I had never thought about the history of our planet in this way. I mean really considered that those who have ever lived all looked at the very same moon. They have been entranced by its beauty, gazed at it for inspiration or thought about their lover somewhere far away, under the same moon!



via Daily Prompt: Moon


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Harbor Walk~This Way

“I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.”~ Jimmy Dean



“Harbor Walk” by Southern By Design


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“Harbor Walk Too” by Southern By Design



Honored to be a featured blogger for Cee’s Which Way Photo Challenge, Aug 17, 2016 edition.








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